My mom and I have a very close relationship. She raised me as a single parent until I was 6 years old and she remarried. My mom is like a best friend to me and we share almost everything. I think this is also because I don’t have any brothers or sisters. However, when I was 18 years old, I had to move out for university and have been abroad ever since — I only came back to live with my parents for a few weeks/months in between, but nothing long term.
Ever since I can remember, I loved to travel and I was sure that, one day, I would live abroad. I’m sure my mom saw it coming as well. I have never been a person who was homesick, but I was rather bitten by the travel bug and experienced a feeling of wanderlust every once in a while. I was very lucky and everything I dreamed of in terms of going abroad actually worked.
The first time I left for school, I still lived in the same country; I only moved two hours away from home, a small town in Southern Germany. I came home every other weekend and during the holidays, and my mom also came to visit me every couple of weeks. During that time, I learned a lot about myself and became more responsible and mature.
After I graduated, I decided to go abroad for six months to follow my passion and live in China. Saying goodbye at the airport was really hard for us. Luckily, today we have the Internet, Facebook, and Skype, so we were able to keep in touch almost every day. My mother even came to visit me in China! When I came back after six months, I only spent six weeks at home before I packed my suitcase again and moved to the United States to finish my Bachelor’s degree. This time it was for nine months, and my mom wasn’t able to come visit me.
Now, I am back in Germany for a while to prepare for my job in China. Full-time. Open-ended.
I am really happy to have a mom who supports my decisions even if it means that she cannot see her only daughter on a regular basis. She understands that I can only be happy if I follow my dreams. Sometimes, parents understand they need to hold back in their own happiness to ensure the happiness of their children. To me, this seems to be true parent love.
On Mother’s Day, I come to remember what she does for me more than on other days. Therefore, I want to thank her for supporting me with all her heart.
Being an expat’s mom is not easy, and it requires a lot of strength. That’s why even though a mom can be annoying sometimes, think about the fact that you don’t see her very often and appreciate her support and love for you!