Zengzi, a Chinese philosopher and student (scholar) of Confucius, was well known and often quoted in connection with one of the most famous Chinese phrases: Zengzi kills the pig. This is a story about teaching children to be honest and trustworthy.
One day, Zengzi’s wife was about to go shopping when her little son grabbed her clothing and pleaded with tears in his eyes to go with her. After a while, Zengzi’s wife said:
“My dear boy, if you stay at home, I shall kill our pig and make your favorite dish of braised pork when I return.”
The boy agreed and released her hand, tempted by the memory of the delicious pork dish he’d eat that night. When she returned, she saw Zengzi with a knife in his hand trying to catch their only pig. She was surprised and tried to stop him. “What are you doing?” she asked. “I’m going to kill the pig,” Zengzi replied. “But why? Today is no special occasion; we should leave it for the spring festival celebrations,” she said.
“Didn’t you make a promise to our son that you would prepare a braised pork dish for him?” asked Zengzi. His wife laughed:
“How can you be so silly. I was merely coaxing him so he would stay home.”
But Zengzi wasn’t laughing. “How can you deceive our son? You know he is very little, and we as parents need to set an example. If you lie to him, you are teaching him to deceive others. Do you think that this is the right way for a mother to teach her son, showing him she can’t be trusted?
With these words, he stabbed his knife into the pig and killed it.
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